I’ve always been the main bread winner in my home and when I lost my job I felt horrible. I felt like a complete loser. I didn’t know who I was anymore. Of course, I looked for a job like crazy. I sent out so many resumes but after a few weeks and I still hadn’t found another job I was getting really depressed. I started spending my days sitting around the house in my pajamas while my wife was working and I was supposed to be job hunting. I managed to hide it from her pretty well. But my friends – they knew something was up.
One afternoon, three of them showed up at my house and made me get dressed. They wouldn’t tell me where we were going only that I was going to have fun and they were going to make me feel good. When we finally pulled up in front of Rhode Island Dolls gentleman’s club in Woonsocket, RI I shook my head. I said I didn’t want to go there.
But they kept at me and I finally gave in. I had been there before and I knew that my wife wouldn’t mind because she said it was good for me to have some time with my buddies. I figured it wouldn’t hurt to spend some time with them and I went inside.
I was prepared for what was likely to happen. When the guys and I had gotten together at strip clubs in the past it had gotten kind of rowdy. My buddy, Brent, always wants lap dances –lots of them! And they can get kind of loud.
It was the middle of the afternoon but I hadn’t eaten so the guys insisted on buying some food. We got a pile of appetizes and then I got one of those awesome pizzas and some wings and totally pigged out. After I’d eaten I honestly felt so much better. I didn’t realize that I hadn’t been eating much and even when I did I hardly even tasted my food. And the drinks – well, that just makes good food better. I had a couple of martinis and I was soon feeling better than I had in weeks.
After some good food, one of the guys suggested that we get a better seat by the stage so that we’d have a better view. And was I ever glad that we did. There was a new girl on the stage and she was so sexy! She was a tiny little thing with mocha colored skin and dark brown eyes and long hair that came almost down to her but. She had a lip piercing and her smiles and sexy moves made me completely forget that I was depressed about not having found a job yet. She wiggled around the pole and smiled at me as she slowly stripped down the almost nothing.
They guys and I spent the rest of the afternoon at Rhode Island Dolls. I didn’t usually get lap dances but I was feeling good and I managed to get this sweet dancer to come over and dance for me. She suggested that a private dance might lift my spirits even more and the guys cheered and pooled their money together and told me that it was on them. She took me to the curtained off private dance area and proceeded to blow my mind with her sultry dance moves. We talked a bit but my mind wasn’t exactly on the conversation if you know what I mean.
After that afternoon at Rhode Island Dolls in Woonsocket, things started coming together. I got my mojo back. I don’t know what it was that made the difference. Maybe I felt more confident. Maybe having some fun with the guys (and the RI Dolls dancers!) made me feel more hopeful and that was reflected in the way that I did things. I don’t know. But the next day I got back on job searching. I started calling companies directly though and speaking to people in HR. I got out on the street and went into companies. And before I knew it I had three interviews set up.
When I went to those interviews I was at my best. I feel like I did really good and even though I haven’t gotten one of the jobs that I interviewed for yet, I think I’m going to.
Oh, and as a bonus, my wife said that my change in outlook is great and well, we’ve been having a pretty great time by ourselves late at night – if ya know what I mean!