There are certain skills that you need to have to be a dancer at Rhode Island Dolls in Woonsocket, RI. One of them is that you have to be able to dance. That’s pretty obvious. Being cute and attractive is a good asset. Being in great shape physically helps, too. But you may not know that being a good conversationalist is also an important skill.

Why? Well, if you know how to hold a conversation, you’ll quickly become a favorite of the clients. You’ll get more money and the clients will come back to see you and talk to you again and again.

So, you need to know how to start conversations and keep them going as long as you need to. If you learn how to do this, you’ll make more money and you will be much more likely to become a regular dancer for the long term.

The first thing you need to know about being a great conversationalist is that you should never talk about yourself. The one exception is if the customer asks you to talk about yourself, but even then, you should try to steer the topic back to them as soon as possible. Don’t talk about your money problems or your private life. That’s just good common sense. Instead, ask them about themselves. Listen. Let them vent about their work or their relationships. Give them the time they need to feel like you are a good listener. It makes them feel connected to you.

Another good tip to make customers feel that you are interested in them and that you want to listen to them talk about their lives is to mimic their actions. If they lick their lips, lick yours. If they play with their hair, do the same. If they tilt their head, tilt yours in the same direction. When they cross their legs, cross yours the same way. When you see them take a sip of their drink, take a sip of your own. Anyone who depends on people skills learns to do this. It makes the person you are talking with feel that they have similarities with you and it makes them feel that you are truly listening to what they are saying. And it helps you get the sales – or in this case, the extras like the lap dances and private dances.

Even when you are not talking to people you can prime them for future conversations. Start when you’re on the stage. Don’t just close your eyes and dance. Look around. See who is paying the most attention to you. Make eye contact with your audience. Take note of who is especially attentive and who smiles at you and who holds your eye contact the longest. Make a mental list of who you should approach when you’re done with your stage act.

Finally, never make assumptions about who has money and who does not. Sometimes the ones with money are not the smartest dressed. And it isn’t always the one that is sitting near the stage throwing out the dollar bills. Sometimes it is the average looking guy sitting in the corner. Sometimes it is the quiet one that is sitting all buy himself. You can’t know until you take the time to talk to them.

Now, assuming that you’ve gotten good at conversation and you’re talking up a storm, there is one more question to ask. You know you can’t just talk to them all night long. At some point, you have to get them to ask for a lap dance or a private dance. And if you wait, they may never ask. So, you need to make them think it is there idea.

Never simply say, “Would you like a private dance?” That gives them the opportunity to say no. Instead, you could say, “When can I dance for you?” or “Are you ready for a lap dance now?” They can still say no if they want to but it gives them the impression that you expect that they do want one. Which they do of course! You just need to make them realize it!

Conversation is the start of every business transaction. Every good sales person knows that. Show that you are a good listener. Be engaged in the conversation. And ultimately, you need to ask for the lap dance or private dance in a way that the customer thinks it was their idea.